Only reason I’m doing this is because I’ve given up on what I called my God. When you hurt from an angle and nothing comes from that hurt, but hurt. What is faith? Here it is. I am a mother of two girls. One is only 21 and is severely schizophrenic. The other is 26 and decided she wanted to be a Lesbian. Now I find myself in & out of the hospital, suffering from what the doctors can’t even diagnose. Assuring me (we’ll try this or we’ll try that) but never giving me a straight answer to what’s making me feel like I’m dying every month. Most people tell me to pray. What a joke. At one point it’s all I had …Until I realized I was making a fool of myself. So tell me couch, this has been going on for three years. How do I take this pain away? Fix that.
Can we get some answers for this distressed Mother … from the “Couch”
Mark: Pray about it and turn it over to the Good Lord and leave it with him because once you have done that it’s not for you to deal with or worry about anymore. He, will work it out. Ijs
Janice : Have Mercy Father! You’re not alone! Christians (those who call Jesus their Lord and have accepted Him as their savior) are NOT exempt from trouble, heartache, pain, grief, etc. and all that this world brings. Jesus said so! He also said to take courage, He has overcome the world! This is not our home but we react as though it is. God’s promises are true and real and His grace is amazing. God’s Holy Word provides comfort, rest, peace and hope! When I’m going thru these momentary afflictions and discomfort (some by choices I’ve made, some not), I’ve learned and are still learning to take my focus off of the problem, no matter how severe and bad the problem is (death, sickness, financial, emotional), surrender it all to God cause I can’t do anything about it. I’ve learned to trust God in everything. It’s also beneficial to be connected to other believers who’ll be there for and with you. This life isn’t easy. But God who is rich in mercy, will take your sadness and heartache, and replace them with His peace! Spend time with God in His word (even in this) and watch Him change you, your focus and give you a new perspective. Your circumstances may not change immediately, but you’ll see yourself and most importantly God in a whole new way and fall deeply in love with Him cause He’s the only one who sees you, your worth and value and despite everything you’re going through, He still have plans and a future for you, one with hope!
Derrick : Sister, you of all people should understand stubborn children. They can be so hard to maintain. I was a stubborn child. I learned that a hard head will make a soft butt. So …Now you don’t want to come in the house! Because you stubborn? Father don’t play that..! He will take your play things, to put you in order. Sister just go back in the house and see what Father want. I bet you will get fed and a good cleaning and put to bed for some much needed rest. Don’t give up on us. Give up on that which continues to forsake you. Our Heavenly Father is Alfa and Omega and you know he is a jealous God. Jesus will walk you back in. HE IS MY BIG BROTHER.
Barbara: All praise to our LORD, & SAVIOR CHRIST JESUS!!!! When you speak of giving up on GOD? #1 he’ll never give up on you! GOD is all knowing, & all seeing!! When we find ourselves in hurting pain that we can’t see clearly from day- to-day? That’s when faith steps in! That’s when u stand like the tree planted by the river of living waters. Remember how Mary, & Martha was so mad because JESUS took so long to get there b4 their brother died? He knew what they were going thru. The hurt, pain of him dying. He wept with them because he could feel their hearts & knew they had lost faith. I often wonder why we claim faith. Do we take it back to heaven with us? Or walk with it knowing no weapon formed against us will prosper! We serve a MIGHTY GOD!!!!You say both daughters are bound by spirits? All you can do is cast them out in the name of JESUS, & anoint them! Both are grown & accountable for their on sins now! Talk to your GOD & tell him how you tried to raise them in CHRIST! Tell him how he said in his word when he saved you he would save your seeds!!!! Talk to your GOD!!!! But! U also remember that with the same measure of faith he gave you? He gave them also!!!!! They have to go thru the fire, the same as we all did! Raise a child in the way they should go & they’ll never depart. What your children need now is your faith, & strength more than ever! Who’s going to pray better than a mother for her children? The prayers of a mother stops heaven! The doctors can’t diagnose you because it’s spiritual pain! U need to let go & let GOD! There’s a blockage that you have created when you took your eyes off of your GOD! Satan’s trying to kill, steal, &destroy your family!!!!! If you walk away from your GOD? You take away your covering! Look @ your situation when you let go? Not a funny joke anymore? Look to the hills your help is coming from the GOD, you gave up on for such a time as this. The bible say only a fool would believe there is no GOD. So that’s the time fool would come into play? Never 4gt prayer changes things! I will keep your family in prayer. GOD bless you!
Godiva: LET’S SEE ONE DAUGHTER IS SEVERELY SCHIZ… THE OTHER IS A LESBIAN… YOU DO NOT HAVE THE POWER TO FIX NEITHER… THEY ARE WHO THEY ARE…. SO YOU’VE WORRIED YOURSELF WORRYING ABOUT THEIR ISSUE/CHOICE…OBVIOUSLY YOU’RE GIVING UP AND LETTING THE DEVIL WIN… YES PRAY, YES GET A GRIP, YES FIND SOMETHING TO LIVE OR FIGHT FOR… SHUT UP TAKE A STEP BACK AND COMMIT.
Allen: I’m like this u calling on everybody answer but the only answer u need going to come from God. Now people can say what they want like me; but THE HEAVENLY FATHER is your answer and only answer. When we all go through something it’s a check from God, so talk back with him he loves it. Peace n God Bless!! (Don’t give up).
Audrey: Prayers for you sweetie pie.
Beverly: Sis your situation is understandably frustrating and hurtful for you, nothing hurts worse than to see your children hurt or gone astray. But It is in these trying times that our faith is measured to show our trust and love for God, these are the times that we hold on to what we have professed(faith) and Gods word, that we know to be true, as it was when all was going well. Will you still love me if I don’t answer your prayer right away? Will you still praise me? Has my ever lovingness kindness gone away? Am I not worthy of praise, honor, and glory in the good times and the bad times? Our heavenly father has left here for us his word as well the comforter. His word speaks to us saying “I will NEVER leave you or forsake you”. Come unto me all ye that labor and heavy laden and I will give you rest. (Matthew11:28)Cast your cares unto me for I care for you (1Peter5:7). Yeah tho I walk through the valley of the shadow of death I will fear no evil for thou art with me (23Psalms). You see my sister the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds, casting Down imaginations and Everything high that exalted itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ. (2Corinthians10:4). The word of God is our weapon combined with faith, to overcome any situation we have to face in life. But you have to be a Christian in order to receive these benefits. And if you are not, it sounds like to me it’s time to try Jesus. I did hear you say that you have given up on what YOU call God, I’m not sure of who you call God but, may I offer you who I call God? Because in him are all these benefits, just call on his name, his name is Jesus, receive him as your personal Lord and Savior and he will give you rest, in him. And if you have already accepted him as your Lord and Savior then don’t give up on him because he has not given up on you. Ask him to show you how to deal with what is going on in your life right now, because you do know that the devil is a liar and he came to steal, kill and destroy. Don’t let him win, just keep the faith with all belief knowing that it will work out for your good. In Jesus name I pray. Amen
Charlotte: All I can say is you must be one powerful woman of God. Because Satan hates you and is using those closest to you to render you non effective for the kingdom of God. He knows that his time is up here on earth and he is trying to take as many of God’s children with him as he can or at least leave them so paralyzed with fear and anger that they are non-effective for the kingdom of God. Sister, I know you hurt and it’s ok. God made us emotional beings. But it’s not about you! The enemy is attacking your babies, Jesus, and you are supposed to be angry, but channel that anger in the right direction. Be angry at the real enemy. Go into your prayer closet and cry out for the angels to come to your defense! Believe it or not when we pray you send out a mighty cry for help into the spiritual realm. The word of God say he can do exceedingly and abundantly more than you can ask or think, according to the power that works in you. You have power!! Use it!! This is not the time to turn on God. If you serve the true and living God, he has equipped you for such a time as this. I will be praying you strength in the Lord.
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Elaine: Not too much behind a “couch panel” as powerful and anointed as these great answers. First of all … Repent and get back in good standing with Father God. Next get the oil of our people (Olive Oil) bless it and anoint you & your babies in the name of the … Father, Son, and the Holy Spirit. Ask anything evil or not of God out of your bodies and back to where it come from…. Thankfully in Jesus name.
Sometimes what we see as situations are not always hopeless. As for your younger daughter seems she has become somewhat imbalanced. Since this has been going on already for three years it could be a good place to start an evaluation. Seek to find the underlining cause of such changes. Ask meekly and have faith Father God will reveal it to you. Trust him. He will unlock the truth. Remember (Hebrews 11:1) Now faith is the substance of things hoped for the evidence of things not seen.
As for the older child you have to understand that people make choices which they have to live with. Many times we judge from “Our eyes”. Her sexual preference and lifestyle as an adult you have no control over. Stop beating yourself up. Please …Embrace her for whom she is. If anything else is meant to be it will bloom. When you find peace of mind …there will be peace within. Be patient and continue to love Father God, your children and yourself. There will be a change. It is always hope here on the “Couch”.
Courtesy of Oshay Duke Jackson
brown suga : how come you always talking about women wearing weave it isn’t nothing wrong with that. As long as you classy with it. Cause you can still be classy and presentable even though you wearing weave and long as you not being loud and ghetto.
Margo : She looks like a HARD 28- 30 year old. I looked younger than her when I was 27. Some of us black folks look older than our actual age.
Philly man: I am a big fan of Tommy but there is one thing that I disagree with…black women wearing weaves and/or lashes to make themselves look presentable: I feel that if some black women didn’t straighten and/or wear weave, they couldn’t compete with other women when dating. White women get implants, injections and tans for whatever reasons and this being America, we are bombarded with images of beauty who have long flowing hair and long lashes. When I see a woman with a weave on, I don’t automatically think she’s a beastie.
Caius: Tommy, the beasts (swine) and dogs are all in it together. Think of it as a spiritual conspiracy. That is, they must come to the defense of their own kind. That is why the dogs come to harass you, at the behest of the beasts. The dogs and the beasts are on the same team. The problem is when a person gets caught in the clutches of a beast or a dog. That is when there is a problem. The beasts and the dogs do not want others to know the truth about them. They don’t want the light shined upon them. They cannot change. Beasts are incapable of change, because they are dumb animals by definition. Therefore their only choice is to attack the messenger. The message itself is the truth.
Mark: About time black people start telling other blacks to straighten up and quit being stupid. We whites can’t say anything because then it’s a hate thing. It’s a sad situation that the black population has been destroyed by behavior unfitting the human race. Whites need to straighten up too.
Nihilistic: Black women are always jealous of us White girls. Their men want us. Their men hate them. I win!
Garvin: I am speaking for most white men. THANK YOU!!! WE LOVE BLACK BEAUITFUL WOMAN. ALWAYS HAVE, ALWAYS WILL. GIVE THEM ALL TO US.
On the other hand, there is Dr. Sebi who claim to hold the cure for aids as well as many other diseases. He credits all his successes towards the black woman. So tell me, as you draw your own conclusion … Who do you agree with?